Storytime at the Coffee House: Part II & Misogyny vs. Misandry

Photo Credit: Tabitha Turner.

In Part Two of this series, I discuss misandry in the workplace. Thinking back on it, there could’ve been some misandry or sexism involved in the post from Part One, but that’s speculation. Who knows?

Anyway, I unfortunately overheard a conversation between two women-- I was working in the area, I wasn’t eavesdropping. I didn’t get a good look at them, so I don’t know if they were friends or relatives. Apparently, some guy broke the heart of one of them-- he probably  “pumped and dumped,” as the saying goes--but she made an absolutely misandrist, sexist comment. Crying, she tells the other woman, “All men are the same. All men are the same…” There was more because she went on a rant, but I thought it was best I get away from the conversation.

 

There was a part of me that wanted to say something, but I had to consider my job at the time, which was why I got away from them. What pisses me off about this is if a man said this about women, the misogyny birds would come out of the woodwork. This post will lead to another post that I’ve been wanting to write regarding misogyny and misandry. As a matter of fact, this will be a two-for-one.

 

Misogyny vs. Misandry

What is misogyny, really? It seems to me that it’s relative, nowadays. Any criticism of a female, any you say they don’t like or disagree with gets marked as misogyny. I’m not saying misogyny doesn’t exist, I’ve seen some comments by guys online--usually guys who are frustrated with women--that are extreme, to say the least, but this is ridiculous.

The fact is women say and do misandrist, sexist, and chauvinist things like this all the time, but most people seem to turn a blind eye to it. Very few people will call it out. Yet, the slightest criticism you have of them, and it’s considered “misogyny”. Even some of these weak, pandering, punk ass men are alongside them crying about it.

Whether it’s misogyny or misandry, it’s wrong either way, but as I heard a commentator say sometimes when calling basketball games, and I'm paraphrasing, “If you’re going to call it a foul on one end, make sure you call it a foul on the other end.”

I say that to say, if you’re going to call out men for misogyny or what they perceive as misogyny, call it on the other end as well. Don’t punish men and hold them accountable, but turn a blind eye and give women a pass when they do it.